The Courage to Be Vulnerable: A Real Look Behind the Curtain
In the world of executive coaching, there's often an unspoken expectation to embody relentless strength and confidence. But today, I'm choosing to step away from that norm and share a more personal, less visible side of myself. It's a side that grapples with the same fears and vulnerabilities that many of us face, but seldom acknowledge openly.
This isn't just another narrative; it's a genuine glimpse into my journey, one that has profoundly shaped my approach to life and work. It lays the groundwork for 'RefireMe', a platform that's not just a business concept, but a reflection of real-life experiences and personal growth.
In revealing this part of me, I hope to demonstrate that vulnerability isn't a weakness, but rather a courageous step towards genuine self-discovery and transformation. 'RefireMe' is more than a program; it's a testament to the strength found in embracing our vulnerabilities and using them as a catalyst for change.
A Life of Impulse and Perspective
My life has been a tapestry of impulsive decisions and a relentless quest for impact, balanced by the calming, perspective-giving influence of my wife. She has been my compass, guiding me through times when my perspective seemed blurred. As someone constantly envisioning the next big thing, her grounding presence has been invaluable.
The Turning Point: Leaving a Public Life
Eight years ago, I made a pivotal decision to step away from an 18-year career that demanded me to be perpetually 'on'. It was a public role, placing my life and my family under the microscope of public opinion. Walking away, though not realized at the time, was a crucial step. It allowed me to embrace anonymity, to step back and reassess. Yet, even in the shadows, my passion and drive for transformative work never waned.
RefireMe: The Birth of a Dream and the Wall of Fear
As the concept of RefireMe began to crystallize, a familiar, yet daunting, wall emerged fear. Questions flooded my mind, echoing doubts, and insecurities. "What am I doing? Who am I to embark on this journey? Can I impact the lives of executives?" These weren't just rhetorical questions; they were reflections of a deep-seated fear, a stark contrast to the fearless image I often portray.
A Candid Confession: The Struggle of Being 'Stuck'
In my role as a coach, I've always prided myself on my strength and resilience. But, it's time to confront a harsh truth – even I get stuck. Writing this, exposing my thoughts, fears, and vulnerabilities, goes against the grain of who I believed I was. The mere idea of others reading and forming opinions about my inner struggles is terrifying. But here I am, laying it all bare.
The Reality of Being Stuck: A Tough Reflection
When stuck, I find myself becoming more controlling and aggressive, a misguided attempt to shield myself from vulnerability. Admitting weakness, and asking for help these are not actions that come naturally to me. Instead, they morph into fear, suspicion, and even paranoia, distorting my interactions and making me question the intentions of those around me. My questions often take on a confrontational tone, far from the supportive demeanour I strive to embody.
Conclusion: Embracing Fear on the Path to RefireMe
Despite these challenges, I continue on this journey with RefireMe. Fear, though an unwelcome companion, has also been a catalyst for growth. It has forced me to confront my limitations and pushed me to evolve, both personally and professionally. In sharing this story, I hope to not only introduce RefireMe but also to connect with others who may be grappling with similar fears and uncertainties. Let's embark on this transformative journey together, embracing our vulnerabilities as we strive to make a meaningful impact.
Wishing Phillip every success with this new venture. I have observed from the sidelines as he has applied his drive and enthusiasm to ignite passion for every new chapter and challenge of his life. No matter where Phillip has found himself, from leading change in large multi-national companies or transforming the lives of those in his community who have no one else to advocate for them- Phillip always makes his mark and makes a difference. His vast experience, knowledge and compassion equips him to be the catalyst in other people’s quest for renewed purpose. God bless you brothe.